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Sex & the City review

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I went to watch Sex and the City Sunday, and I’ve needed a couple of days to absorb this. The movie is great, as far as entertainment value goes, but I had some issues. Firstly, the movie is incredibly stereotypical. The Latin boy in the movie was the typical hot, sexy, Latino, and I have serious issues with how they totally objectified this guy. It was about the pieces of him, not the whole of him that they were focusing on and I feel that if it shouldn’t be done to women, than why do that to men? Equal treatment is just that and neither side should complain about being objectified. I understand that this characters main focus was his sex appeal and it was all about Samantha wanting him, but lusting after him and “wanting” him the way they portrayed him was just not copacetic.

On to another topic…The only black girl on this film had a strong resemblance to your typical “Mammy” persona, but not as asexual as a Mammy would be. It seems to me that when it came to typical race roles, those were all in place in this movie. The Latino was over-sexualized, the black girl played a “Mammy” role taking care of Carrie and getting her life in order as her “assistant”, which that term to me on it’s own speaks of being a servant -I should be one to talk since my job title holds the same term in it and I swear I’m treated like a servant on a daily basis with just as little pay.

What I found seriously flawed in the movie was how they portrayed the “victims” in the movie. I’m going to try really hard not to give anything away while I explain this, but I don’t know that I’ll be able to. The roles that took place in the movie where forgiveness had to be rationed I though was completely biased. In true life people would not be as forgiving, and it almost seemed as if they had this “you have to forgive me because I’m the man” attitude about the whole thing that I just didn’t appreciate. Even after everything that had been done to the girls it seems as if the “make-up” was a little too much like Snow White where her Prince had finally come to rescue her.

At the end of the movie, I knew what was going to happen but I was hoping that Carrie would stick to her independent guns and tell him to fuck off. She’d been burned by Big so many times that it was about time she told him to go screw himself and yet she didn’t and he came and swept her off her feet again without much effort on his part and they lived “happily ever after”.

Ring a bell?

These girls are supposed to portray the strong, independent, I-don’t-need-shit-from-guys New York Girls, and yet they all get swept off their feet by these Prince Charming personas where the men themselves were really flawed in what they did to them from the get go that it really just didn’t seem right to me that they should even come close to playing a Prince Charming role or that this role even existed at all in this movie. If it had been the women that had wronged these guys the men wouldn’t have been as forgiving. One good example was from the HBO episodes where Carrie cheated on Aiden with Big and he never forgave her for it. That was basically the downfall of that relationship. Why then does Miranda have to forgive Steve for doing the same thing? Why is she pushed by all her friends to forgive him and go back to him? Was there really more at stake in that relationship than with Carrie’s?

In the end though, it honestly was a pretty entertaining movie. I just wish that women weren’t always victims and weren’t always expected to forgive men of their indiscretions and mistakes when the same wouldn’t be true if it were the other way around.

Any thoughts??


Written by Lissette

June 5, 2008 at 4:13 am

6 Responses

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  1. i haven’t actually seen the movie, but a couple of my friends were annoyed that one of the women adopts an asian baby that doesn’t speak or do anything in the movie. like she’s an accessory or something.

    thanks for your post on my blog by the way!


    June 5, 2008 at 7:37 am

  2. That’s right! I forgot about ranting about her too. Lily, the cute little girl who would pick up the phone and say “SEX!” Yeah, another racial stereotype. She was nice and sweet and quiet and would just randomly blurt out sex and all the girls would laugh. Not cute.


    June 5, 2008 at 12:42 pm

  3. I have a troubled relationship with the show, even though I’ve never seen it. A friend of mine from Columbia told me that she loves the show because it shows the ‘typical US woman – all about her independence, but who has waited too long to get married and now needs a family so much.’ I had laugh at her about the typical US woman bit – we know NO ONE who is as rich as these women – I certainly don’t live like that, and I grew up mostly in the States. Yet, is that what these characters are portraying… women who regret their independence?


    June 5, 2008 at 8:03 pm

  4. It seems that way. And in another way, it almost seems as if they’ve taken parts of women and over-emphasized them in each woman. For example, you have “The Career Woman” (Miranda), “The Sex Kitten” (Samantha), “The Happy Housewife” (Charlotte), and “The Romantic” (Carrie). Take portions of each girl and, I think, you get most any woman.

    I totally get you with the spending habits. How they can afford to live in the places they do AND afford $500 shoes on a whim is beyond me!


    June 5, 2008 at 8:15 pm

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    June 6, 2008 at 4:59 am

  6. WoW! What a honest an informative review.

    The stereotypes I can certainly do without – especially the Mammy – ugh! I never watched the series at all.

    Barbara Walters and Elisabeth Hasselbeck gave it such raving reviews, but now I understand why Hasselbeck would luv it.

    After the man shits on you – work it out – Stand by Your Man, she gets off on that kind of crap.

    Have a Great Weekend,

    Miss Vicki

    June 6, 2008 at 5:36 pm

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